My beloved partner, Ross Pittman, and I were fortunate enough to be in Seattle when Matt Kahn hosted his most recent Soul Gathering in Seattle.
It was an amazing talk with a powerful message that I feel needs to be spread, so I made the video above to share it in summarized form.
LET GO OF VIBRATIONAL CO-DEPENDENCY
Matt refers to victimhood as “vibrational co-dependency.” I love this idea! Basically, vibrational co-dependency is when we believe that we need the other to act in a certain way in order for us to act in a certain way.
Like, “I’ll be nice to you when you’re nice to me.”
Any time that we make our actions dependent on what another does, we lose our creative power. We move from being a creator to a reactor. And when we lose our power, we feel like we’re a victim because the experience we have aren’t determined by us, but by others and how they treat us.
Every time we choose love as the basis of our actions, we heal ourselves.
Matt pointed out that “you’re the first one that your love vibrations transform.”
So interactions with “mean” people are a great opportunity for us to grow. If someone comes to us with negative, agitated energy, we have the chance to hook ourselves into their lower vibration (co-dependency) or to practice love in a higher way (true power).
In this way, negative people are our best teachers. We can be thankful for them, because it’s easy to respond to a nice, smiling person with the same sort of positive energy, but we really cultivate our spiritual “muscles” when we interact with lower vibrational folks, because we can’t be a unaware, reactionary mode. We must be totally present, and heart-centered, and choose to lift the entire interaction up into a higher frequency.
IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU, SO DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY
It can be hard for us to react to a “mean” person in a loving way if we take their comments personally. The important truth to always remember is that how another person treats us is not about us. It’s about them. It’s about their personal history, their fears, and the ways they were (mis)treated in the past.
In many (or most) instances, they’re simply passing along something that has happened to them. Matt says we can be Angels of Light when people react negatively. They aren’t doing something to us – or even responding to us, as much as showing us what has been done to them, and the negative way they now treat themselves. They are offering their injuries up to us for healing. If we can pause, take a breath, open our heart a little more and create a non-reactive space for them, everyone wins. The entire vibratory field expands.
This is not to say that negative people will typically respond to your authentic heart offering with a loving hug. Uh-uh, no sir. The likely response will be sarcasm or skepticism because that is what the ego does when it comes in contact with an unfamiliar, unusually loving reflection.
So, when you get a reaction of sarcasm, skepticism or a look that says someone thinks you’re insane, you’re on the right track! You’re offering love in response to their negativity, and they don’t “get” it.
Be okay with that.
When you’re acting as an Angel of Light, you don’t need the other person to act or be different than they are. It’s your actions and reactions you’re interested in.
Matt Kahn put it this way:
“Positive people don’t convert negative people. Positive people use interactions with negative people to raise their own vibration.”
What’s interesting about vibration, though, is that it always changes the environment. You don’t do things to change other – only yourself. But as you raise your vibration, you become a beacon for others. You lift them with your vibration.
SYMBOLS FROM THE CRUCIFIXION INVITE YOU TO LET YOUR HEART CRACK OPEN
Matt talked a bit about some symbols from Christ and how they relate to this open-hearted, angel work.
1) The crown of thorns, he said, is a reminder that your mind will never have the answers. Everything in your mind will be worthless. The answers are in your heart.
2) Christ was nailed through each hand with his heart spread wide open and vulnerable, as people threw stones. This work is not for the feint of heart. It asks you to be open and vulnerable and to allow others to break your heart wide open so that you might expand.
3) The mouth of Christ was not bound because nothing prevents you from “blessing the living heck” out of everyone who assaults you.
Only you decide what to give and not give to someone. You are free to give your love to everyone, and as you do, you bestow your own love upon yourself each step of the way.
Vicki Howie is the creator of Chakra Boosters Healing Tattoos™, the beautiful, easy way to shift your chakra energy (and life!) 24/7. She’s also the host of the weekly Conscious Life Awakened Speaker Series. Sign up for the free series here and experience weekly positive shifts. Want to heal your heart chakra? Get a free download of Vicki’s Heart Chakra Song here. Blessings.