In fact, it’s unbelievable it took us as long as it did to come to this basic realization. Anyone who has spent 10 minutes inside a typical, heterosexual relationship has experienced the contrasting way in which men and women experience and approach life.
What creates this difference between men and women?
Is it the planets?
Undoubtedly, it’s a mix of factors, as it always is. But I believe the major underlying cause is our chakras.
You see, our bodies energy centers are set up for innate yin-yang balance, but gender genetics, social conditioning (and undoubtedly more) cause men to “reside” more naturally in their “masculine” chakras, while women “live” more in their “feminine” chakras.
I’ve observed this tendency repeatedly in my yoga students.
But before we can talk any further about the nuances of the chakra system, you need to have a quick, general overview.
In the most popular western interpretation of the Hindu chakra system, there are seven main chakras that reside along the spinal column from the base of the spine (governing the tailbone, legs and feet) to an area above the crown. If you are not already pretty familiar with your chakras, I suggest you read my article introducing the chakras.
I like to refer to the chakra system as 6+1, because I’ve observed that the six bodily chakras “pulsate” between “masculine” and “feminine” energy (like everything in the universe), and the seventh chakra acts as a sort of a connection or portal to pure spiritual essence.
The odd chakras – 1st, 3rd and 5th – are “masculine” (penetrative/contractive) by nature. They generally represent grounding/stability (1st), action/power (3rd) and purpose/expression (5th).
The even chakras – 2nd, 4th and 6th – are “feminine” (receptive/expansive) by nature. They generally represent intimacy/”going with the flow” (2nd), love/compassion (4th), insight/intuition (6th).
When a yoga practioner does the common, flowing yoga pose, called “cat-cow,” you can see that the masculine chakras move together (tailbone tucks, core moves in and chin tucks when doing the “cat” part), and the feminine chakras move together (pelvis widens, heart opens and forehead moves upward and backward when doing the “cow” part). Here’s a youtube video showing this masculine-feminine, cat-cow pulsation.
Basically, on both an energetic level (first) and also a physical level (second), men are more present in their masculine chakras, while women are more present in their feminine chakras.
As a result, men are generally more grounded, and power-oriented, and also more purposeful in their expression (one reason men always want women to “just get to the point”), and women are more comfortable with intimacy, compassion and intuition (hence, the popular term “women’s intutition”).
Again, these are generalizations. Our western culture as a whole is masculine in it’s approach, so women are often drawn away from their natural, feminine tendencies.
But our planet is also at a turning point of pulsating more toward the feminine right now… so we are even seeing men aligning more with the feminine, and youtube hosts numerous male “apologies” to women —as men start to truly honor the divine feminine.
The arena of intimate relationship very quickly shows us this masculine-feminine pulsation of the chakras.
Men want to stay the same (1st chakra stability), while women want to change them (2nd chakra is all about change and creation). Women more easily lose themselves in love (weak 3rd chakra, overly open 4th chakra) whereas men typically find it hard to fully surrender to love (strong 3rd, weaker 4th).
Not to get too complicated here, but I just want to note that duality is a quality of physical existence. So the lower the chakras, the bigger the opposition between the masculine and feminine pulsation. This is why sex is such a basic drive. It’s the drive to unite the masculine 1st chakra — that is expressed by men — and the feminine 2nd chakra that is embodied by women.
This means that the biggest difference in our physical body is between our own 1st and 2nd chakras (stability vs. change), and that the duality is a little less between our 3rd and 4th chakras (individuation vs. connection), and even less between our 5th and 6th chakras (personal truth vs. intuitive knowing).
Obviously this topic is much larger than a single blog post can cover, and once, again, let me point out that I am talking in averages and generalizations here. There are, of course, many men and women who do not fit the descriptions I’ve given here.
Still, I’ve observed these tendencies in men and women enough times over the years for it to be considered typical and noteworthy. So let me just conclude for now with some simple advice for each gender.
Women: When starting to work with your chakras, emphasize your masculine chakras 1st, 3rd and 5th. It may not feel natural or comfortable for you to step fully into your stable (sometimes boring) side, as well as your power side (where your anger also resides) and to speak with full, truthful expression (like saying “no” even if it might displease someone), but it will move you toward greater balance within yourself.
Men: Do the opposite, and emphasize your feminine chakras 2nd, 4th and 6th. It may be a little uncomfortable moving into your hips and inviting change into your life. It also might not feel natural for you to come from your heart (4th) instead of your head (3rd – yes, 3rd chakra rules your logical thinking), and it may not be easy tapping into your intuition. But all these practices will get easier as time goes on, and they’ll move you toward greater balance. And when it comes to the chakras, balance is the name of the game.