If you read about chakras from different sources, you’ll find that some chakra specialists say our sexuality resides in our first chakra and others say it is associated with our second chakra.
I think this inconsistency is due to the fact that human sexual energy actually exists in both the first and second chakras.
And more specifically, masculine sexuality is associated with the first chakra and feminine sexuality is related to the second chakra.
Now, notice I didn’t say “male sexuality” or “female sexuality,” but rather “masculine” and “feminine” sexuality. This is because I want to make a distinction between archetypes and genders. Typically, a woman will express the feminine archetype, and a man will exhibit the masculine archetype, but obviously, this is not true 100 percent of the time. Still, I’m now going to talk about men as masculine and women as feminine – with you knowing that I’m generalizing for our purposes here.
Masculine sexuality has a strong physical drive, and is penetrative by nature. Feminine sexuality is receptive and has far less drive. This has been shown through the administration of hormones to preo-op sex-change patients. Men who are changing into women take female hormones and report a decrease in their sex drive, but an increase in their emotionality. And women who are changing into men take male hormones and generally report an increase in their sex drive.
The first chakra is about survival and basic instincts and drives, so sexuality is much more of a basic, physical need for men than it is for women. The second chakra is about flow and receptivity, duality and intimacy. For women, sex is less of a basic drive and more of a way to connect emotionally with another.
To more fully experience energetic/spiritual connection during sex, a man can learn to move his sexual energy up into his second chakra and connect more deeply with his female lover. As he moves into his second chakra, he can hold back some of his natural drive and be sensitive to his partner’s needs for intimacy and connection. Quite interestingly, when he does this, his partner gets more aroused, and her sexual drive kicks in more fully. Basically, as he connects with her on her level, she naturally reciprocates and joins him on a deeper level of physical sexuality (first chakra lust).
In some relationships, the male may actually exhibit the female needs and the woman may show more sex drive. In these cases, the roles described above might be reversed. But still, if each partner adapts to the other’s needs, they can co-create a sexual experience that includes the physical drive of the first chakra combined with the emotional intimacy and connection of the second chakra. When both the first and second chakras are actively drawn into the sexual act, then the unified energy can move up the chakras toward more and more ecstatic states, and sex becomes a healing, spiritual endeavor for both partners.
Vicki Howie is the Creator of Chakra Boosters Healing Tattoos, the contemporary healing album, Chakra Love and the Co-Editor of Conscious Life News. She’s also the Host of the Conscious Life Awakened Speaker Series. Join her for LIVE weekly calls with the words best spiritual healers and teachers. Sign up for FREE here.